What I learned in my trek through life is children are the net result of how well society protects women and provides them the safety and liberation.

It also shows how well society teaches how boys to become men, since masculinity without the ability to actively feel, see, and touch through actual childbirth is abstract.

The issue highlights that the the waters that represent the positive and powerful masculinity is now a slow trickle in a dry creek bed of life, which means the large pool of water or ocean of womanhood is no longer being fed the nourishment it needs.

We are reaping what we sow and simply put race does matter, but it is something that spikes across the entire male gender.

Men are lost, listless, live in fear, and are paralyzed in their ability to talk about their emotions and feelings. When women and society attempt to try to get them to open up, knowing that the only way to heal is to talk, talk, and talk some more. Stoic walls get refortified.

Then that energy gets redirected into the only thing that patriarchal society has taught men for multiple centuries through the start of #metoo and Weinstein/Cosby. Anger and Lust. That is the only vehicles man has been educated and taught to, and when those come rearing their heads, society then uses identity and fears of loss to beat down black men and make white men feel sexually and personally inadequate. i.e unlovable.

We reap what we sow.

Now normally society could rebalance it since males have a lot of sexual energy and needs too, but it came out at the cost of emotional labor on women. Well now that equality is here (yeah for women), Women are saying fuck no one-strike buddy.

As they should, this makes men retreat and now with two plus decades of easy access porn they can direct the energy towards a glass screen and release it. Thus leaving nothing left for women who desire male intimacy. In a perverse way, the old adage and crass statement "I have the pussy I make the rules", now has been neutralized due to a tube site or porn site, and now women are a category on the menu for some men like "IRL encounters".

When men do lift the bar they are so damaged, that women are like WTF ... I need depth and range and more, so they feel empty and unfulfiled. If you can't have a relationship, if you can't guarantee intimacy, having a child will never happen.

Now society tries to shame the only people caring for society women, because they are scared because there won't be soldier to fight wars or tax dollars that can be stolen or run.

Men are needed more then ever because these problem only get fixed when men and women work together as equal partners to power through the crap storm of life.

Mother nature is a smart woman. We are animals, and as women who have no interest in women are having to turn to women for sexual intimacy en-masse, it is her plan.

Huh? Well, nature is trying to entice a male to go reproduce with a woman and two people can easily over power and neutralize one. So it is needing to be done to try to get men to wake up and realize that without stepping up the species will start the process of collapsing itself.

So the issue is men not stepping up to help build society in large enough numbers to help our sisters in life want to want to have children and a career and to have partners that do their 1/2. Men right now are like, fuck this. I would rather watch sports, play games, self-love until burn out, and do the least amount possible.

It is sad. My solution is to treat women and men with children like the military. 5 years of coverage for 2 parents where both take time off until kids can be put into school. The government pays their salary for the company until they can come back "online". Obviously childcare is necessary too.

But most importantly, men need to be shown that being a father and a solid person for their partner is the sexiest thing on the planet. They also need to realize that adulting doesn't mean a daily affirmation.

Versus some youtuber or reality star or sports start that is planned to make $450 million over a decades because they have unique physical gifts ....

Be well and fist up up to you. Rage on and share because some people are listening.




Lover of people, Texas Feminist Liberal Democrat, Horse Farm, High Tech Gadget ENFP Guy, and someone who appreciates the struggle of women and wants to help.

Love podcasts or audiobooks? Learn on the go with our new app.

Get the Medium app

A button that says 'Download on the App Store', and if clicked it will lead you to the iOS App store
A button that says 'Get it on, Google Play', and if clicked it will lead you to the Google Play store
Alan Tegel

Alan Tegel

Lover of people, Texas Feminist Liberal Democrat, Horse Farm, High Tech Gadget ENFP Guy, and someone who appreciates the struggle of women and wants to help.

More from Medium

LaMDA Magic

Manifestation Friday (beta)

State of SEEN — Volume #26

I want to see the aquarium: Recreating Ripley’s Aquarium of Canada’s website gallery