What is good for the goose is good for the gander …. for your boyfriend, he should never get oral, and should be required to wear condoms and you should tell him since you are concerned about his hygiene he should go get tested monthly for STDs.
As a guy, oral is an easy way to pleasure a woman. Why? You don’t have to worry about mixing up and losing focus due to your parts taking over during the act. There is tremendous satisfaction in watching her eyes roll back or her head thrash in the bed. To seeing her hands grasp the sheets -or- to see her get the orgasmic death shakes ….
Then you can say … I did this … wow ain’t that awesome.
Since most women with love and trust and safety can be made multi-orgasmic, then when you are done … suggest she saddle up and be a cowgirl. Why? you can lay back and enjoy the ride with gravities assistance and you know what … there is a good chance with the right pressure and rubbing with you in her … she will come again …. and if you are lucky you orgasm together .
That is how I roll … and if a guy says no from the get go … well that is akin to going to a theme park and riding the slide for enjoyment …. me … take me to the largest rollercoaster in the park for the fun!