When a man can make the confidence of his female partner push back with little to no anxiety against the force of the bland and closed minded.
He is a real man.
When a woman can lead the man and break traditional boundaries and he stands by and loves and fights with her no matter the words spent on him.
She is a real woman
When the two mate?
The taboo that the traditional folks see, makes them realize how shallow and boring their intimacy and lives are, since violence is all they know.
Tell me when has violence provided pleasure? Not in the vanilla sex world, but when a person goes to another and says, my safe words are X and Y.
Because the funishment is not punishment.