When a partner is overly one dimensional, It makes them shallow and predictable which gives the appearance of not desiring the partner. On the flip side, being overly complex gives the perception of being unreliable and inconsistent. Once the two sides meet the only solution is to swap roles by learning the other side …

Toss in socialized gender assumptions which adds gas to the fire of pain, and hello shit fest …

The hard part as a man from my view is revealing the vulnerabilities adds depth but really stresses the woman in a different way. Women have a feel for how shaky men feel confidence wise, and when the man comes clean quite a few women lose respect for them.

It is well documented how women lack trust in men and their is no disputing that fact, but the dirty secret only women that partner with men find out is that men trust women even less, and the more they act like traditional gender expectations, the more of the women’s mistrust is added on top in a wierd double whammy.

It epically sucks.

What is interesting is the comments made about hurting one woman hurts all women shows a bias that at least their is a community for each other. Heterosexual men don’t have that community and yet society assumes it is the patriarchy when in reality guys are alone and naked knowing that they will be left adrift or killed off as we are presumed to be disposable.

How does on bridge that gap to create warmth and life and now deeper diversity in intimacy and communication … when one partner says I am bored …