While I do know the core intent of the article is for women, there is a lot of good stuff for guys too.

As the playing field changes with power and what not, guys should to not freely give away the "D".

If my situation changed, I do know personally I would take my time. Does that mean a virginal and chaste view? No. But it would mean there would be a helluva a lot more time working through the traditional "bases" view and build up.

If that would bother a future partner, then obviously at this point there is a huge disconnect, and the fit probably isn't there -or- the damage being carried from other past "bad times" needs to be dealt with.

So knowing I am also a guy, it would be very important to make sure not to fall in that bear trap of expectations and dreams and hope projection too.

Great article as always!


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