Women desire interest, challenge, edges, commitment, to be desired, to be able to service (respectfully) … they desire a partner in crime.
If you pride yourself on civic-minded nature, one might ask what are you hiding and why? Too much nicety, makes you look bland, smooth, and uninteresting.
Folks may question why. If you live single, buy a large box of pasta, chicken and white sauce. Now eat that for 30 days straight. For breakfast … each eggs, bacon, and toast and nothing more.
Ask yourself after 30 days ….. do you desire something different?
Women (presume cis-het) are very forward now (as this author has called out nicely and through his anecdotal travels) …. they want a human being that has the opposite parts and soul and complimentary masculinity with out the toxins and masks.
Prove you are safe and consistent in the things that matter, civil in others, and be interesting enough to make them curious …. and you will win big time.