Words matter a lot one-on-one, and consent is very important. It is ironic if one thinks about it since if we view it purely from a CIS-het view, The most important thing is to get to know one another and the sex becomes "a lot" better when consent is threaded through the whole mating and dating dance.

Women and men will always be fidgety.

But words and intent break down that wall of protection around our intimacy of parts.

The harsh reality is though after this dance is done and folks get into the comfortable vibe of what is the warm coat of couples privilege, there is one more set of walls to be left.

The walls around a man's true trust and love too. Both men and women have them, and the roles flip down the road, since men are layered. Then a whole new consent dance happens.

For those that might feel awkward and uncomfortable, making a woman feel safe is the #1 thing you can do. If a woman is charged and there is an element of safety there but not there.

Whispering in her hear, I am going to kiss you hard now, ok? Stepping back and taking the time to grab her head with both of your hands slowly and measured "and" pausing.

Then moving in. Do the same with clothes, and intimate touching and keep repeating until neither of you can speak.

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