Work does not make the person. Their sexuality does not make the person, nor does their gender.

Their soul, their actions, their belief's and how the treat people does make the person.

Would it be exciting for me as a CIS-male, Pansexual if I was single and dating to find out the person across from is/was an exotic dancer or even a sex worker? Definitely.

But why? Because they know how to deal with intimacy and people at their most vulnerable parts and points in their life, and they do the same.

It makes the person unique and special because they have the confidence to go where no person has gone before.

One of my favorite music video from a long time ago was one where they show the stripper leaving work to go home to watch the weather on the late TV. Why? Because it was vastly more interesting then some of what the person saw.

The silver lining to having the experiences you do while it sucks in a lot of ways, is you can cut through the bullshit of dating and mating by stating what your profession is or was.

Then the true person will show themselves vastly faster and it will save you oodles of pain and time later. For it is better to be alone and find that special someone for a few years then to spend decades with someone that you shouldn't be with ...

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Alan Tegel

Alan Tegel

Lover of people, Texas Feminist Liberal Democrat, Horse Farm, High Tech Gadget ENFP Guy, and someone who appreciates the struggle of women and wants to help.

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