Wow that was a lot of “not so nice” life embodied in truthful satire.
What I have found growing up in a very strong traditional household, and then working through a multitude of issues (quite a few women have dealt with for centuries)
People have both a masculine and feminine spirits that range from 0–10 (like a volume dial). They do not have to coincide with biology. Same thing applies to sexuality (preference) 0–10 and a person can be both “0” (asexual) or bisexual (5) …
So no you aren’t a fraud, and depending on where you line up, you actually maybe a very dynamic person.
As for love, one can only love once they can truly expose and be who they are, and the other person trusts and believes in them.