Yep. Most people aren't realizing men are attempting to do it but in the most horribly and broken way.

Where are they doing it? Social Media right now. That is the therapy zone. So the side effect of this?

Women are going to be so turned off it will disturb the gender as a whole, because the darkness you are dancing around? Men are deep in the tar pit and have bathed in it with zero to no help for their entire lives.

This is the cost for the failure of society who we succeed at girl power (for gen x) failed at boy power, because we assumed the patriarch and their was a community of men to protect the boys.

There wasn't. Every boy in Gen X has been thrown to the wolfs and forced to fight for the limited tools of anger and lust they have. EVERY man is a threat and since women are seen as equal, every women to quite a few men are the same. So the feedback loop which men need to do is to scary for quite a few, and now that there is adequate toys and porn and other things to self medicate, they self medicate.

When they do exit their own personal therapy? They are unusable to women and society as they are so detached and gone (albeit for small chunks of time), that women have seen and heard enough and step back saying no way, which is the healthy thing to do.

The problem is that means an entire generation of women that have a deep desire for real and authentic masculinity will not be there. Then in a perverse paradox, women who may have sexual urges now feel like a teenage boy with deep desires left unfulfilled that percolate into a toxic brew of yuck.

The best thing you can do is to say and take 3 steps back, and not embrace it.

Abandonment, but you are lucky as a woman and you may not realize it. Men don't have a community, nor a voice, or an ability to talk.

I don't have an answer, and I do therapy solo. I know I am in a relationship damaged by what you see and even after 5 years work hard on it.

Frankly, I wouldn't want to be in therapy with men honestly. They are too dark for me, and frankly they would taint me since I understand the language and know the path. So take that sole male person you know needs help. You take 3 steps back from him, and I will take 6.

Should I be this way? No. Right now I personally work through modulating the raw sexual energy I have, dealing with the emotions which are lit up like a dashboard on an exotic sports car, learning how to fine-tune and balance my heavy strong alpha nature as a person and find inner peace and balance through meditation. Their aura of shit, no way. I want none of it also, but I know when this is done.

I will have the balance, the raw nuclear energy behind true masculinity that if my current partner can't handle it, will surprise the next person on my path because my knob doesn't go from 0-10, it goes from 0-1000. That being said, I will have an inner and stable peace that will sooth and heal that I hope to share with partner(s) that are fully formed women/feminine spirited people.

You are right to be angry, but my future vision I saw from 2003-2012, that I started to work on in 2015, warned people about in 2016-2019, is now becoming really apparant to women and society.

We reap what we sowed with men, and BTW, this is the same for Gen Y and Gen Z too. Nothing has changed outside of women saying no. My proof? Texas shooter in a school, the Las Vegas Shooter, the boys being lifted by the GOP, and the shooter who drove from the heartland of Illinois to Wisconsin to shoot things.

I don't have a solution, all I know it is sad as we all lose, and while people state save Social Security I hate to tell them it is dead because the main metric is marriage and birth rates, and our society is on it's death bed.

When men don't give a shit about sex really, what does that say about what they feel about our culture and society.

It is a depression and grief so deep and dark it screams get therapy.

Be well, you are an amazing bright light with tremendous skills and llight that should be admired.




Lover of people, Texas Feminist Liberal Democrat, Horse Farm, High Tech Gadget ENFP Guy, and someone who appreciates the struggle of women and wants to help.

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Alan Tegel

Alan Tegel

Lover of people, Texas Feminist Liberal Democrat, Horse Farm, High Tech Gadget ENFP Guy, and someone who appreciates the struggle of women and wants to help.

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