Yes. I don't mean to add negativity to the whole discussion, but if one were to swap gender roles in quite a few of the articles declaring what the opposite gender should say and do to be more "x".

Oh boy.

I feel a huge vacuum, and from discussions with friends that are female who are desiring partnership with individuals unlike their default gender ... there is a deep desire that as a lot of men know personally, turns desperately into action that can be off putting to the thing we desire the most.

I know as I worked (and still work) on being the most authentic male I can be, there are times I have heated discussions with my wife who state you sit there and say nothing.

My comment in return was I am thinking about what and how to say something so as not to be (using your words) 'unthoughtful'.

Even with guys that get it better than most, I have observed in media and through side commentary with folks that I have interacted with over the years that quite a few of the guys have health issues, pass away earlier, and there are intimacy issues.

I would love to write about some of this stuff personally, but that is presuming I have left over energy to do so.

You know after pulling my share with household stuff, crazy work schedules, trying to help my wife with her dreams. There is nothing left in the tanks, except the pillow and maybe a book ...