You either love people, or you hate them. That is the binary choice, if you judge a person who is trying to fight their way through life lining up their sexuality, their human gender spirit (through the vision of male versus female), and living life and dislike them, then guess what ... you don't love people.

There is so much to learn from non-CIS folks that can help CIS folks live better and more wholesome life because they have had to process and deal with the question of gender, while others were blind.

I will always be thankful for the therapist who stated to me, I want you when you look at porn next to look at transgender women. Find attractive ones to you and think about it and process it.

Doing so made me open and understand so much more about my masculinity and helped me reboot myself in a good and positive way.

So for that I am thankful and I love people ... it isn't that hard ...

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Lover of people, Texas Feminist Liberal Democrat, Horse Farm, High Tech Gadget ENFP Guy, and someone who appreciates the struggle of women and wants to help.

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Alan Tegel

Alan Tegel

Lover of people, Texas Feminist Liberal Democrat, Horse Farm, High Tech Gadget ENFP Guy, and someone who appreciates the struggle of women and wants to help.

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