You hit a nail on the head, there are some people out there that gross generalize anecdotal experiences across a gross population that doesn't hold up.
Are their bad eggs in the bunch? You betcha, but one can look at the statistics of even 100 bad or 1000 thousand malicious people, and when one compares it against 160 million? The failure to be human rate is less then the COVID vaccine.
Are we bad mouthing the vaccines?
Now that woman have more power and access (yeah go team women), one can see a feminine view of dominance and pushback that if the roles were reversed would be called out as toxic.
Here is the thing, there are not equivalent to feminism groups for men out there, and if there are it branded an incel organization at the drop of a hat.
I have lost count of the the victim weaponization used against myself over the years, and when I shared more about my life (post #metoo), eventually several of the most fervent "posters" even stated my pain and trauma wouldn't ever come close to what they felt.
Why? Because of my gender.
I blocked, and then later unblocked them and moved on. I learned to not let them live rent free in my head, and conversely, I realized they were low class and low value women equivalent of some of the men that were highly sexist in my life.
That is the thing that makes me scratch my head. If one treats this like a "war", would it not be best to conscript allies and advocates from the male gender to trust and fight with you? Have them dive into that cess pool of hell fight the battles, and then haul them out and help them heal from the fight?
Dunno ... but I am proud and glad to be called a feminist and it has helped me along the way. For those women I have reached out to or left positive comments, know if you respond in kind I will be there to help.