Your mental safety, your body, your mind, your right.

The thing is, if it isn't for you, you are free to feel how you want, when you want everyone else be damned.

The bigger message IMO is that a partner should learned to love and respect the boundaries and definitions of you in the way you feel best.

Now I realize that is a man-splation to what you already said. But I speak from my male POV to other guys to say listen and respect your partner and her desires.

That may mean making sure she is comfortable and relaxed and making sure her needs are met 100%.