Your writing is amazing, and as I learn myself I find out so much about myself and desiring to learn. I will never be blessed with kids, so maybe one day I will have a few ISBN numbers in a catalog somewhere that someone in the future will find and will find interesting so I will live on.
On this front, I am a highly sexual person, so being able to read and write and changing it from a male version of 0 to 1 to one that is 0 to 100 like a female view is very very helpful to me.
I also will not use a pen-name, because people should not be shamed about their sexuality and desires. We should shame violence and rejection and and focus on love and passion.
People should feel comfortable being freaks in the sheets "and" streets as long as it is consensual and respectful. Chivalry and respect and class should also be the norm too, because the dance with both in the open, leads to a duality of beautiful proportions (like night and day).